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Say something? Say nothing? looking for advice.
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Aug 11 12:07pm | Replies (37)Comment receiving replies
2me - I have the same dilemma daily with my husband. He gets very quiet when I correct him or let him know what he has done or said repeatedly. I too get upset with myself when I do this. I’m very slowly learning to let it go when we are alone. And trying very hard to not point it out when we are with others. These are difficult times and my heart goes out to all of us who are watching the decline of our loved ones - and also to our loved ones who are still aware of their memory problems. It hurts my husband to know that I am irritated with him so I am trying to be kinder by making it my mission to be his protector, not his corrector. 💕
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I love this. You make such good sense. I try not to correct when we are alone, also…however we are not always together, and I just need him to be aware OF the problem…he will answer the door…to solicitors, and chat with them. The other day I was unaware someone had come to get us to hire them for pest control. When I became aware of what was happening, I went to the door and called to him, saying “you have a phone call”. Thankfully, we are still with our long-time pest control company, but things like this just keep happening…sigh!
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Your last words hit the nail right on the head…be his protector not his corrector. I am going to try to live by those words with my husband. Thank you.