Make sure to express your gratitude to your wife starting pre-surgery so you aren’t in too much pain and grumpy that you don’t remember. it isn’t always easy caring for a loved one after a fusion. She will need to have patience we are helpless at times. Things that should be easy to accomplish are so difficult or off limits. Tie a string around the remote for the TV so she doesn’t have to keep finding it for you especially when it is right next to you.