I failed to mention that I'm the only one who drives any distance to the meeting; that is why it is held where it is - everyone else lives w/in a very short distance of the Pres's home. I'm about 25 minutes away. It is not realistic for me to suggest that 8 to 10 people drive 25 minutes to my home when I'm the only one who needs to drive any distance to the area where they all live.
Your second suggestion may just be a winner. Because I live at some distance from the others, and the meeting is already held on Zoom for one member who lives part of the year out of state, it will be easy for me to join in on Zoom.
And in reply to another who suggested I simply talk candidly with my friend, the home owner, in the manner of, "What can we do about this?" seems to solve the issue for not only me but also for other people who use her guest bath and are confronted with a very, very low toilet. I think I can approach her in this manner. Thanks for the suggestions.