Hey! I kinda think you might give DBT a better chance. It seems that maybe you expect to read about radical acceptance and to have that take hold. If you work it and read those cue cards every day for a year it will make a difference. If you do it for another year it will help more and more, etc. It also helps a great deal if you work to talk back to that negative/self-hatred/stupid failure gremlin in your head and take charge of that ugly beast. It's your head and does not belong to anyone else! Tell it to SHUT THE F___ UP! and tell it who is in charge, again and again. It's up to you to take charge of who you are - a little at a time.