I wanted to post an update to my first comment in this discussion. I took the advice that was posted regarding finding him a geriatrician. In doing my research, I decided that I could change my primary care doctor also - so I am now seeing the same geriatric doctor that he sees. So I thank you for the recommendation because I would not have thought of this on my own. ❤️

His first appointment was in April and we both liked her immediately. He had his annual visit at the time and she rescheduled him for a three-month follow-up to do a more extensive memory test, which was this past week. She could see the results from a previous MRI of his brain that was done 6 years ago but she did not order another one at this time. He did well on the more extensive test that she gave him this week, so that was hopeful, and she will use this test as a baseline for future tests. She has adjusted some of the medications and eliminated some others that his previous doctor had prescribed. He has been willing to follow her instructions and has confidence in her, as I do too. She ordered blood work labs at that visit, which he had done the same day, and he now has a hearing aid - as she recommended.

We have been busy! And also since my first post in March, he has seen an orthopedic doctor for his back and has completed physical therapy and a new MRI on his back to determine if there is further treatment that he can undergo to alleviate that pain.

I feel like things are already improving when we stay focused on exercising, eating the right foods, doing mental exercise by playing memory games, doing our physical exercise, and socializing with our neighbors in our independent senior living community. Sitting and napping all day is never good for a person’s mood and we both know that. So trying to stay active, even though there are still those days ….

I still get irritated at times - I am no angel 😇- when he forgets things and when he can’t seem to focus on what I’m saying (when he doesn’t wear his hearing aids) and that then leads me to irritations about other petty things about his personality that were not so great of an irritation in the past. I need to remember how I feel when younger people look at me and treat me the way I treat him at times - superior with the attitude that “I am smarter and more capable than you”. I am not so young either and I am in this “for better or for worse, in sickness and in health ….” and I do cherish our good moments together. 🥰