I've read that we caretakers are supposed to go along with delusions. Like....oh the guests canceled. They will come tomorrow for dinner. I can't. It feels demeaning to my husband; I've always been 100% honest..don't ask my opinion unless you want the truth. I say, "It is just us two for dinner tonight."
We have never been entertainers other than family either and that was seldom before we moved closer to one daughter. He is constantly locking and shutting doors in the house. I have new hardware that has a tool to unlock a door if necessary. I will admit to having a hissy fit when he took a nap and locked me out of my own bedroom. Paranoia is part of ALZ. Hiding things so "they" won't take it. Who is they? No clue. My friend's mom had ALZ; she went to her son's home and yelled from the yard that his wife took her best bra. She drove around with her silver in the trunk, so the daughter in law wouldn't take it. My mother-in-law swore her daughter took her loofa. Buckle your seat belt, this is going to be a bumpy ride. This forum helps me to know I'm not alone on this journey.