He’s retired. I couldn’t answer as to planning and doing because he literally does nothing other than cook and sometimes dishes. He was suppose to rebuild our back porch last summer. We had bought the wood etc… he built the original porch when we moved here 27 yrs ago. He kept putting it off and we ended up hiring someone to build it. He sits in his chair all day. Some days he doesn’t even get dressed. This is not who he was at all. I feel like I’m going nutty. I know I’m grieving the life we had and what we won’t have. What I had thought we would do after retirement. Other than to go to the store and once in a great while he will go to our daughters. Other than his appointments @ VA he doesn’t do or go anywhere or do anything. I’m exhausted because I’m doing everything. Caring for our chickens all of it. I have been on disability for 10 years. It’s hard on me physically but I think emotionally it’s even harder. When he has said the wrong word for something and I say something about it he tells me he did it on purpose cause he knows I think something’s wrong. I call bull on that though . I’ve seen his face when he has done it and he doesn’t know he said the wrong word. I also told him that it would be relationship defeating for him to do it on purpose as he knows how I’m feeling. I think I just want to know what’s wrong , what’s going on with him and then I can deal with it better. Not knowing but knowing is hard. I guess I’m wanting a doctors confirmation. A medical diagnosis so I can believe totally. Not one person we know does not say what’s up or what’s wrong with _ _ _ _ .