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@slhayton A parent with Alzheimer’s needs more care than you can provide. you’re not moving your parent just to make your life easier, but to make them safer. I remember trying to help my mom. My sisters and I were telling her about Assisted Living. She wanted to remain in her apartment with her “pretties” around her. We knew that she couldn’t stay and we were too far away to be of help. We finally got her downstairs where her apartment had been recreated, though on a smaller scale. What mostly bothered us, is that she died 1 month later , just after her 99th birthday.
I found this article from the NYT that helps explain the feelings we have. It’s a very good article. Read the entire article.
https://www.nytimes.com/2024/02/03/health/dementia-spouses-nursing-homes.html
Please share the article with others who are interested.
Question for you: how close will your home be to the assisted living facility. Be sure to tell me how the article fits your situation, I’d really like to know what did the doctor said about dosing.

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Becky….@becsbuddy
Wanted to read the article you referenced, but it requires a subscription.

For years I argued with my sister, who wanted to move our mom to a facility…(she had help at home, and was safe) -finally I agreed, and Mom died a month later. It’s tough when family members disagree on something so important.