The "going home" really was grating on me. My husband wanted to go home to his family and small children. He'd thank me for a nice meal and want to leave. We have been married for 57 years; our daughters are in their 40's with their own families. He left one evening to go to Detroit where he is from; that is a long walk from Santa Cruz, CA. It was risky, but I moved from our condo near the beach where wehad lived for ten years to a one floor home near our daughter. The 3 tier condo was dangerous with all its stairs; and there was too much traffic for his sundowner treks. Choices have to made for the good of the corps. Your wife really doesn't feel rooted to her longtime home because it isn't familiar to her. Nothing is. Think about going into a party where you know no one...every day. That must be how it feels. Instead of trying to get her to remember things about the house, try embracing the aspects of it that are now new to her. Oh wow, look at this view, the mantle, the bathtub..anything. All new to her. You can change yourself and your own attitude, but you can't change another person especially now. AlZ has the winning card, so the best we can do is play the game as well as we can.