I’m so very sorry to read about your husband’s cancer diagnosis and his severe reaction to Xeloda 🌹

I’m not sure how openly you and your husband are able to talk between yourselves around his illness and treatment? There are a number of different treatments and if one is not suitable, it doesn’t necessarily mean the others are also not suitable.

Perhaps it may be possible to discuss a plan with your husband before going into seeing the oncologist so you are both on the same page? No doubt he is also fearful that his options are reducing and that time may be running down and he wants to know what you want to know.

Take all the time you need to talk with the oncologist and make sure he explains things so you can understand and ask all the questions you need. You may also discuss eith your oncologist getting a second opinion and where. It’s not rude or disrespectful to do so and very normal.?

Prayers up for strength and healing 🙏🙏🙏🙏

Perhaps you both could agree not to expect the worst and wait to see what other options the oncologist may have. If the oncologist gives options you need to both question him about the side effects and if necessary the hard questions around the benefits of treatments.

My stage 4 appendix cancer on statistics (remember that - they are statistics!) meant I had only a 14% chance of living 2 years. I am coming up to 3 years with no evidence of cancer.