Get your ducks in a row. NOW. My husband always did the finances, but when I started to see thing go awry, I told him it was my turn. Math is not my thing at all, but, trust me, you need to start doing your family finances. The ALZ ball will pick up speed downhill; you will have no time, energy, or fortitude to take on finances then. You will be amazed at what you are capable of doing when you have no choice B. It is a dance of not going too quickly or too obviously. Be at the helm before possible paranoia kicks in, and he thinks you are pulling a fast one over him. Start out with him as your "mentor" and have him show you what bills need to be paid, planned for, and a general overview of the financial year. I changed to Schwab banking which has no brick and mortar building; all is done online. The plus was that when we moved closer to family, the bank came with us, and I didn't have to regroup all over again. I'm 80 and learned to deposit checks using my phone. I was pretty tickled with myself over that one. You can get cash anywhere and if there is a charge for the service, Schwab will pay it for you. Consolidate your credit cards to no more than 3. I have two credit cards and one Schwab debit card. Get a notebook and insist on being at doctor visits and all interaction with outside services and take notes. Downsize and simplify your life as best you can. Just handling your husband will become a fulltime job, so tackle your learning curve as quickly as possible. Atta girl. You can do this.