It's now about 10 months post aquablation.
Still trying to stop using diapers, with some success. I'm not really wetting my pants, so to speak, but there is some light moisture during the day and at night, whether in the Depends or regular underwear when I wear them. I'm not sure if that's caused by a minor urine dribble, or some sweat.
I have forgotten what life was like pre Depends, so it's hard to compare before and after.

I developed a UTI in December, which caused much increased urgency & frequency. I suspect the UTI went undetected for some months before being noticed. The first two regimens of antibiotics didn't help at all, and matters got worse.
Then I was given a different antibiotic, which finally relieved that issue just at the end of the 10 day regimen. But I am always looking over my shoulder waiting for those symptoms to crop back up.
At that time my MD threatened me with a cystoscopy to examine the situation more thoroughly, but he has not followed through yet, and I'm not going to remind him. He told me he would do it under anesthesia just in case some nips and tucks are necessary.
I did have very uncomfortable cystoscopy about ten years ago, so I'm not excited about another one.
Although the discomfort when peeing is not totally gone, I have much improvement with much easier urination, and an increase in time between pit stops. I can usually last 3 to 4 hours between urgencies. And have occasionally gone 6 hours at night. (and sometimes only 2 hours) I still feel the need to try to empty my bladder before leaving the house, because now and then I do experience an unexpected urgency.
I have to pee in female position, because I have not gained full control of aim.
As to my wife's breast cancer, she is doing well. Surgery and daily radiation seem to have done what we hoped. Now she takes daily hormone tablets that are supposed to reduce the likelihood of a recurrence, but there are no guarantees. I dread a recurrence of that problem more than my own issues.