I have set my boundaries with him which has helped me a lot.
My therapist says the best thing to do is educate yourself on narcissistic abuse.
I have read Dr. Ramani's book It Is Not You. Now reading it again. I have also enrolled in her online course. I am very impressed with what is there. It has only been a week since I started with that. I am early on in this discovery of my husband. Only has been 2 months now. Here is the link. Check it out.
https://doctor-ramani.teachable.com/p/taking-yourself-back-healing-from-narcissistic-antagonistic-relationships
I have also started this group on Mayo Clinic Connect for support from others. My hope is to make this group larger each week and bring awareness to everyone that this is real and that the survivors need to support each other.