When flaccid, you can't even see it. It's like the old joke of needing tweezers and a magnifying glass. When erect, it is much shorter than it used to be, with a very slight curve upward. Not meaning to make this sound like a penthouse forum but I am at the point where in order to have intercourse I have to stand at the edge of the bed and pull her to me or have her on top, missionary just won't work any more. If I stood in front of you and removed my clothes without touching it, you would see a pair of testicles and not much else. Maybe that is why I equate all of it with the fun days being over. Like I said, it was never huge to begin with but it was at least big enough to hit the right spot, and I definitely worked on technique and other things over the years to satisfy my partner, now I can barely even urinate because it has gotten so small. It has totally wrecked my self-esteem when trying to find a compatible partner... I guess if I was still married I wouldn't consider it that much of a problem (although it really still would be) but what kind of woman who still loves sex wants a man who can only provide satisfaction through means other than intercourse?