I know the confusion and chaos you're experiencing firsthand. My mother-in-law had open heart surgery when she was in her early 80s. She came out of the anesthesia a different person. Prior to the operation, she lived alone and did everything for herself except drive. Afterward, she needed restraints. It was hell for a year until we returned to nearly normal and moved to an assisted living situation until her death a few years later. I don't have any answers for your specific situation, but I want you to know that I and probably tons of other people have gone through similar situations. It's frustrating. It's unfair. It makes a person so very angry. Good luck, and keep us posted.