@naturegirl5

Thank you for sharing your experience and for your thoughts. I found them very helpful and read this to my husband. It made him think and realize he's only hurting himself and that I can't do it all for him. So hopefully he'll be more careful going forward. Having said that, I also want him to feel empowered and able to do as much as is safe.

It's really hard on people like you and him who have been so active. I'm sorry you ended up with a fracture after 5 years on Fosamax. We'll be starting him on Forteo for a couple of years in a couple of weeks and then will move to Reclast for several years (the doctor told me treatment would be 5-10 years.)

We are seeing an endocrinologist now and I would say she is the absolute best doctor we've had for the osteoporosis. Very knowledgable and willing to listen to our questions and concerns and is happy to hear what I learn here and from my research on the internet. Which is nice.

You are so right that it is up to my husband how he wants to live and that no matter how much he wants to pretend it's not happening or how angry he gets it's not going to change the fact that his life has changed and he'll have to make adjustments.

Many years ago I was in a bad car accident that left me flat on my back in two braces for 6 weeks. I had no husband or partner then. I was 20 years old. Friends came to help, some not so reliable. I was stuck in a bed with a bedpan and the food and drink they left for me. I had TV but no channel changer. I had a phone in the other room that wasn't accessible to me. So I laid there helpless and it was very frightening. I told him when he thinks this is hard, to remember he's mobile. There are so many things he can still do. The fact he can get out of bed every day and isn't in horrible pain is something to celebrate. I just hope he starts doing the right things because I don't want to see another fracture in a couple weeks when they do another xray. He's got three already.

I also reminded him that when he loses, so do I and I think that made him pause. I told him if things got really bad and he couldn't get out of bed or move that I would not be able to take care of him, that we'd have to have help. He didn't like that at all. I hate to say things like that but it's what gets his attention. Makes me feel bad because all I want is for him to heal and be able to live a happy healthy life. I know - it's all up to him! You are 100% correct.