@angiemal it is trite and easier to day than do, but it does "go on the back burner."

A few months before my cancer diagnosis one of my kids was hit by a car while walking in the city. ICU for a month, rehab inpatient for a month, outpatient rehab. To be honest I barely noticed my cancer. The hospital alternated my mastectomies and my child's brain procedures so I could take care of them. Even now, when I recount that year, I forget my cancer.

I don't recommend that as a way to put it on the back burner, however! For most of us, time alone does that.

@angiemal just want to add that with ER and PR positive (especially if highly positive) and HER2 negative, chances are you won't have chemo. Many of us, even with grade 3 cancers like me, have avoided chemo these days thanks to the Oncotype.

As for fear of recurrence, I would try to have faith in the meds: tamoxifen or aromatase inhibitors depending on your age. Again many of us go years or even forever with no recurrence.

The trick in life - since we all run into so many difficulties in a lifetime- seems to be to only worry when worry is warranted. Again, easy to say and hard to do. If you can just distract yourself as much as possible until the Oncotype comes, that can help!