On the personal side, let yourself keep feeling gobsmacked for a while longer. It's perfectly normal.

Prostate-cancer treatments have advanced enormously over the past few years, but it's still a life-changing diagnosis, and you need months or years to get used to living with it and the side effects of whatever treatments you and your oncology team agree on.

Trust that you will end up in a good place, and your joy and zest for life will return (maybe even stronger than before), but there's no shortcut to getting from here to there — you'll have to ride an emotionally-bumpy road at first, exacerbated by any hormone treatment you might end up getting.

Most people here have been down the same road (or worse), and we're happy to listen and share our own experiences.