Post Laparoscopic surgery for gallbladder and umbilical hernia

I’m going to be 63 in Sept . Feel like 95 most days but look 55 . Ugh

Oh I hear you. I feel as old as mathusalem ??? that's about 104 isn't it? I used to think I looked younger than my 64 years (65 in August) but not these days. It has taken a huge toll on my mind, my body, my soul.

104 ! That’s funny statement.
You are right on all points by the way .
I can barely eat food and starve all day . Can’t do protein drinks or ensure or anything like it . I’m not losing weight , after all these years . I’m exhausted beyond belief.
My stupid dental hygienist who I’ve never had before screwed up my mouth under my dental implant so bad it’s been throbbing for over a week!
Did something to my knee and was limping and earring soft knee wrap for 9 days .
Still not all better ! I’m on the toilet with IBS- D 5-6 x day . Plus all else I mentioned .
What a shit show for sure . My poor husband too . We’ve been married ( my 2 nd ) 20 years. This started 10 years ago ! My kids grown ( raised in NE Ohio ), both live and are married in Boca area near each other last 10 years. We are 2 hrs north .
One Son 35 (36 in Sept )one daughter almost 32 . Both got married in 2022 . My daughter is 11 weeks pregnant!! We found out recently. So everyone says . Oh that will make you feel much better . I’m thrilled to be a Nana in Jan to first grandchild but no it’s not going to cure me for sure .
People don’t understand the impact this has on daily life . I have no life but my house and dogs and hubby and texting 💬 some old friends and looking at social media and listening to audiobooks and some tv .
I rarely can even go out except in my yard . Maybe to grocery store 🏬 w/ hubby and Dr.appts if I have any . I’m about to give up on medical professionals. Praying 🙏.

Thank you baguette. I am trying to remember to bend my knees but a lifetime of doing otherwise is a hard habit to break. I slipped up 3 times this week and suffered the consequences. Sure hope I can reprogram my brain. It certainly makes the difference when I do. How are you doing? Are you having acid reflux? Do you take something for it?

I've got the perfect storm. Is anyone suffering multiple issues? I am going through the change so dropping estrogen is making things pretty miserable, I have a bad gallbladder so I cannot eat any fat, I have gastritis so am on a strict diet so it can heal, and my hernia tore a larger hole when it slipped up through the opening after I stupidly drank a full glass of juice and then bent over for an hour weeding the garden. I am medicine/vitamins sensitive so I have opted to take Pepcid AC for the gerd but it does cause me to have anxiety and depression. I try to sit tall and straight but do slouch a little which forces the stomach up so easily and then the reflux comes on like crazy. I can't catch a break. Anyone have any suggestions of any kind? I will listen to all of your advice as I just do not trust the doctors. ER doc refused to listen to me and gave me a ppi which caused such a severe heart pain I immediately refused to take any more.

I took various PPIs daily for over a decade but quit almost two years ago. I developed microscopic colitis from these drugs. I needed Famotidine for a year to acclimate to life without PPIs. Now I control Gerd by avoiding food and drinks that are offenders. I also had to wean off benadryl-based sleep aids and switch to melatonin. Which took a while but now is actually better.

For me, a lot of these drugs are what I call lifestyle meds .. eat what you want if you take this pill. But there’s a price.

Yes I am med sensitive to a lot of medications .
That med I did not have side effects from .
I’m on my 6 th Gastro Dr in 2 states , NC and FL now . They all stink . No one can fix me . I’ve done all my own research and tried so many different supplements and even holistic treatments. Yes I have many diagnoses but they also say some is Functional and they can’t fix those issues .
My latest Gastro Dr is an hr away and I just did yet another Endoscopy & Colonoscopy w/ biopsies. Same 6/7 things wrong . They did just find I have borderline Crohn’s but my Dr won’t acknowledge it or try me on any of the treatments for it .
She only put me on an antidepressant in Oct that I took 6 months.
I’m so freaking frustrated like you ! Your husband really needs at least bloodwork done ✔️ . That’s a long time not to see any Dr! Do baseline testing too .
I wish you well. Life is so hard being chronic.

Rozy, I need to talk to you. I seem to be having an ah ha moment. I’ve been researching so many things and come across a lot of people with our problem. Last night as I was crying in pain yet again, I was asking God why so much misery and pain in this life and I came across yet another video about hiatal hernia. It’s like a light bulb went off. Please don’t tune out, listen for one minute, please. What can it hurt to try this. You;ve nothing to lose.
Okay - so I think that it’s the hernia that is the root cause. It doesn’t seem to matter what size it is in all the people I’ve listened to. If you have one it causes gastritis, it causes reflux, if it’s not aligned then one can’t swallow right, etc. Look up how to do diaphragm breathing. There is a lady who is called Pam Fox and I really think she’s got the answer. There are exercises that you can do to pull it down from the diaphragm and then there are exercises that tighten up the diaphragm muscle to keep the hernia down. Along with eating good, healthy foods and doing these exercises one can live a normal life. I would still get checked out to see if you have h-pylori which can cause a proliferation of bad bacteria which can cause a lot of our problems, but I would start doing the diaphragm breathing right now. I;ve started. It’s hard at first because we are chest breathers, not stomach breathers. But as soon as I feel tense I notice that I’m clenching my stomach so I make myself relax and do some deep stomach breathing. There are stomach maneuvers but I have to research more on these. The breathing is doable. It can take 2 months but it could also be quicker. Please, please, please give this a try. I hate that you are in so much pain and for so long. My prayers are for you to be given a new lease on life and me too. Huge hugs friend. Here’s to a new day. I will keep you posted on my success. Please keep me posted on yours. That would really make my day great.

I am starting with osteo too. It's in my neck. Getting that dreaded hump. Can be painful some days too. Glad that they found out for you otherwise you could of had permanent damage, like in your kidneys.
I'm 64. I guess that makes me on the old side but I have seen them give surgery to 70 and 80 year olds. You would think they would want to do it when one was younger than that and had a better chance.
Canada is the second highest taxed in the world. Inflation is so bad these days that business has dropped for the last 3 months straight. I can't blame the people. Having a roof over your head and food in your stomachs is more important than buying some little do da.
Both ends - now that's not funny. I had that a long time ago and had to stay home from work for like a month. Never sure what had caused it but my boss at the time told me to put a diaper on and get back to work. I'm sure karma will get her for that remark. People have no idea what another person suffers with. It cost nothing to be kind. You just never know. Magnesium is a good thing. I use the topical one as I have enough trouble putting ANYTHING in this body without a reaction.
You are so not alone. I have met so many people suffering just like us. It's insane how they cannot do a better job at fixing this. Over a billion people suffer reflux. All over the world. There is a swedish doctor I believe who specializes in the stomach who created a new device called RefluxStop. It looks so darn promising. If I had the money I would go over there and have the operation. It's some little gadget put into a pouch at the top of the stomach and it stops ALL reflux. They repair the hernia at the same time. And it doesn't restrict the esophagus so no worries about vomiting or not being able to swallow food. Why can we not have that here. Maybe if enough of us prod our gastro docs they will look into it. I've been trying all week to get the capsule endoscopy. Cannot find anyone in Ottawa. Might have to go to Montreal to get it done. I tell you, the hoops we have to jump through to get things done. I'm also trying to get a ct scan as its safer than an endoscopy but if I do it at a private clinic it will cost me. The wait time here is like 18 weeks otherwise. I might just have to do it myself.

Thank you , I sometimes do those deep breathing exercises with my CALM app . I have been checked many times abd tested for H-plyori and SIBO . Always negative.
I made my Dr. put me on Xifaxan antibiotic for it anyway ( 3 diff x in 6 years).
That was a long time ago . Haven’t been on it again in over 5 years.
The only time I thought it may have helped a little was very first time (14 days you take it , or 10 ).
Didn’t work the 2 x after that .
I will google that lady’s name you suggested.
It’s so sad 😞 to live chronically sick 🤢 daily .
I too , cry 😢 and ask God why and why for so long , a decade lost .
I pray 🙏 one day he heals us . I know he’s busy solving much bigger issues but still . Xo