@cheryl16
I, too have trouble with self care. 6 years or more (I've lost track) as a sole caregiver for my husband with dementia and many other health issues and I haven't been away for a night since. If I'm gone for more than 30-45 minutes he's convinced I'm not coming back. I cherish the days when he naps. That's when I call friends, read a book... have some quiet time. I do get to spend time in the garden, just go inside and check on him every 20 minutes or so. For me, self care involves catching moments here and there whenever I can. I hope you can find at least moments for yourself. (Also, housework is no longer a priority for me 🙂 )