GloRo,you sound like such a wise and caring person. I’m so sorry you had such sadness in your 20’s. In our marriage, my husband and I (married 50 years) didn’t always follow the traditional gender “roles/rules” as, fortunately for me, he was raised by a smart mom and had 4 sisters. 😊. So he has always helped with household “chores” and done a lot of the cooking. A very involved dad. Owned his own business, where if someone had a glitch with an office computer, he was the “go-to” guy. I mowed the lawn, because I like doing it. Since he had the business degree (and I was a music teacher) it was natural he did all our bookkeeping and finances. So now, I’m playing “catch-up”. And you’re right; I CAN do it! I have to. Thanks for your confidence in me! We do have a trusted financial advisor. I have not gotten into our personal life much on here, (mostly I’m a “lurker”) but with your kind words, I’m feeling more comfortable about sharing. I don’t know HOW I will know when I have to step in and do more. Like, I’m afraid he isn’t far from biting on a scam that comes to his email, and I won’t know till its too late…or he sometimes talks about closing an account that I don’t agree should be closed…and he might just do it! Things like that. I guess, in my rambling here, I don’t exactly KNOW what I’m worried about. Thanks for listening, if you’re still reading. This group has been a lifesaver for me. Thanks, everyone!