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Early stage memory loss and MCI lack of medical attention
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Jun 26 10:59am | Replies (47)Comment receiving replies
Good Morning, It seems that getting on this forum is becoming a habit. Although my husband and I still have conversations, they are pretty fundamental. I miss the man who listened with his mind and heart to my ramblings, so I write to my Mayo family. This is specifically for 2me and anyone else to whom it may apply. It is hard to get one's mind around the finances. If you need advice, make sure it is from someone reputable. When we take on traditional male and female roles, we somehow forget that roles do not have gender. A guy can cook and clean and a woman can balance a checkbook and mow the lawn. You will become an ace because you must. You wrote, "while there is still time". That phrase is pretty weighted when it comes to dementia. I was in my twenties when I fully understood the word bittersweet. If not dealing with dementia, it was a situation that had no solution and no possibility of a happy ending. Well, sixty years have passed, and bittersweet has returned to bookend my life. While I worked through that old sadness, I discovered strengths I did not know existed. Now I have learned the well that young woman went to goes deeper than expected. That's how I feel this morning. Tomorrow might be different. Although dealing with the care of someone who has dementia highlights the yin and yang of those feelings, it is not a new experience. It is mostly how life is. I try to find two things in each day: grace to do my best and something that makes me laugh. GloRo
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GloRo,you sound like such a wise and caring person. I’m so sorry you had such sadness in your 20’s. In our marriage, my husband and I (married 50 years) didn’t always follow the traditional gender “roles/rules” as, fortunately for me, he was raised by a smart mom and had 4 sisters. 😊. So he has always helped with household “chores” and done a lot of the cooking. A very involved dad. Owned his own business, where if someone had a glitch with an office computer, he was the “go-to” guy. I mowed the lawn, because I like doing it. Since he had the business degree (and I was a music teacher) it was natural he did all our bookkeeping and finances. So now, I’m playing “catch-up”. And you’re right; I CAN do it! I have to. Thanks for your confidence in me! We do have a trusted financial advisor. I have not gotten into our personal life much on here, (mostly I’m a “lurker”) but with your kind words, I’m feeling more comfortable about sharing. I don’t know HOW I will know when I have to step in and do more. Like, I’m afraid he isn’t far from biting on a scam that comes to his email, and I won’t know till its too late…or he sometimes talks about closing an account that I don’t agree should be closed…and he might just do it! Things like that. I guess, in my rambling here, I don’t exactly KNOW what I’m worried about. Thanks for listening, if you’re still reading. This group has been a lifesaver for me. Thanks, everyone!
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GloRo,you sound like such a wise and caring person. In our marriage, my husband and I didn’t always follow the traditional gender “roles/rules” as, fortunately for me, he was raised by a smart mom and had 4 sisters. 😊. So he has always helped with household “chores” and done a lot of the cooking. A very involved dad. Owned his own business, where if someone had a glitch with an office computer, he was the “go-to” guy. Since he had the business degree (and I was a music teacher) it was natural he did all our bookkeeping and finances. So now, I’m playing “catch-up”. And you’re right; I CAN do it! I have to. We do have a trusted financial advisor. I have not gotten into our personal life much on here, (mostly I’m a “lurker”) but with your kind words, I’m feeling more comfortable about sharing. I don’t know HOW I will know when I have to step in and do more. Like, I’m afraid he isn’t far from biting on a scam that comes to his email, and I won’t know till its too late…or he sometimes talks about closing an account that I don’t agree should be closed…and he might just do it! Things like that. I guess, in my rambling here, I don’t exactly KNOW what I’m worried about. Thanks for listening, if you’re still reading. This group has been a lifesaver for me. Thanks, everyone!