It can be so hard to allow adult children to go through these incredible things on their own, which they necessarily have to do. It is so great to do what one can and then stand by and be encouraging, even if and when it all has a a bad day. Saying things like, "I believe in you." really helps. So does honest, caring, soft feedback WHEN ASKED FOR or, at least, GENTLY, as in, "Do you mind if I give you some feedback?" Getting them to appointments, if appropriate to your situation, can be very supportive.

Then just stand by. Quit talking when your point has gotten across. Give love.

The Bidens are giving the nation a good example of giving love to their son and being there, standing by, without rescuing him.