Hi All, I just read M1318's post. This is exactly what I mean by thinking ahead. Whether we like it or not, we are now micro-managers of another person's life.
On a recent visit with my daughter and great-granddaughter, who live in another state, they were amused and amazed that my husband still makes coffee in the morning. But it is only for two. He was unable to process the next function during the entire visit. Also, without leaving my chair, and my back to him, from the noises coming from the kitchen, I was able to give him directions to the proper drawer and cupboard. With a lot of trial and error, I now understand the dilemma at hand and can guide him. It takes patience as well as an organization level I never thought possible. It also keeps him feeling that he is contributing. In our household, there was never a Honey-Do-List where projects languished unattended. Even if I can't promise the same rate of clearance, I try my best. Our best. That is all we can ask of ourselves.