On top of cutting down on irritants like caffeine, alcohol, and spicy foods, you might be able to reduce your urge to go by taking Myrbetriq, which relaxes to detrusor muscle (the involuntary muscle that suddenly squeezes your bladder, e.g. when you're about to put the key in the front door 🙂). It might be worth talking to your doctor about it — I had to go up from 25 mg/day to 50 mg at first before it helped