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Feeling lonely and want to vent
Just Want to Talk | Last Active: Jun 15 8:19am | Replies (40)Comment receiving replies
There is a saying that the way to know who your friends are will be the people who walk in when everyone else walks out.
I am 80 years old and don’t understand my daughter. I flew 3 hours to take care of new born grandchildren, flew 3 hours to take care of grandchildren for 2 1/2 weeks for daughter and husband to go on Europe trip, drove eight hours to dog sit. My daughter wanted me to move close to her so my husband and I moved here after retiring. Then I picked up children from school, dog sit multiple times, and helped with children many times. The children are grown and the dog has died. Now my daughter will go 4 or 5 weeks and not even call me. She may go months and not come to see me. I am alone now and a once a week phone call or a fifteen minute visit would mean so much. When I am around her, I walk on eggshells for fear of saying or doing something that will make her angry. My daughter didn’t used to be like this and I pray for her every day.
I am very fortunate to have several very good friends that I spend time with and I thank God for all of them every day.
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Gosh, that is really so disappointing and sad. I’m really sorry your daughter is doing that. I am not a parent - but the aunt and grandaunt of many. If I didn’t reach out, through texting, my guess is I’d never hear from them. I do try and be the change i want to see - so once in awhile I send out a hello text, or send them a joke or just say “hi I’m thinking of you,” but it doesn’t alleviate the hurt at feeling forgotten about or not counting. I know it’s not personal - it still makes me sad. It’s so wonderful you have very good friends!
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@pinkhydrangea
I am glad you have your friends. I think many of us have experienced what you are dealing with. My mom, sister and myself went through same thing. Would drop everything to babysit, drive kids to events, whatever was needed, we were there. Then kids no longer needed a babysitter and had their driver license and forget about you.
Eventually had to accept that I was not going to change their behavior.
I volunteer and people are so grateful for my help. So I spend my time and effort with people who appreciate it.
You are lucky to have good friends to spend time with.