IMHO, both the Illinois and Iowa oncologists have been rather dismissive and rude.
The first one (Illinois), when I tried to tell him about all the horrible side effects that I was having after 7 months on Anastrozole (and my left knee was incapacitated and I was in a wheelchair at the time) said, "Don't take them then" and walked out! I had thought we would discuss alternatives to the drug I was currently on, but that didn't happen,. When my SURGEON suggested that a ki67 test might give me the peace of mind (re recurrence) that I craved, the oncologist refused to order that, also, and said, "I won't order that for you, You'll have to get someone else" and walked out (again), (He was fond of saying something terse and abrupt, like, "Your knee gave way because you're old" and walking out. ) I have been very disappointed that the Iowa City physician has really not given me the time of day, but I keep trying to remind myself that this could be because he thinks I am doing really well. But am I?