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How do you respond to offers of help?

Just Want to Talk | Last Active: Jun 5 11:31am | Replies (103)

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Yes, I agree that just staying in touch means a lot. I don’t feel like having company or going out, but a quick text or email is helpful for me. Some of my friends understand that. Others seemed offended that I did not want them to “help” me in the way they wanted to help. “Let’s go for a drive.” or “I’ll come over to talk.”
I can’t really do that now, and though I’ve explained why, some people don’t “get it”, and prefer to move on.
They wanted the help to be on their terms and so sometimes you just have to let them go.
If I ever get well, I doubt I will try to pick up these relationships.
I have a few people that understand, and keep in touch the best we can. That helps me the most.

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I had the same experience. Hard to convince them that their offer of “help” is appreciated but not the best thing for you right now. Keeping in touch with emails and texts is nice, non intrusive, and can be phrased in such a way as not needing a response right away. That was my best help. Making me dinner, offers to clean my house for me, taking me out we’re not needed, but it was what they wanted to do. Was hard to tiptoe around their feelings.