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Feeling lonely and want to vent

Just Want to Talk | Last Active: Jun 15 8:19am | Replies (40)
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When I had a stroke in 2018, the biggest non-physical shock was learning how many friends I *didn't* have.

Initially, more than half the people I gave the news to never responded. Over the next few months, most of the rest drifted off.

Many of those who did engage with me just wanted someone to vent on, and figured I was a stationary target.

Making friends has always been difficult for me. I find myself now spending a lot of time alone. Pretty depressing, to be honest.

My wife is wonderful, but I can't monopolize all her free time. I feel guilty enough about much I rely on her.

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binky1956 | @binky1956 | May 23 3:35pm

Hey Scott ~
Being alone or isolated is beyond enduring. I'm talking so alone that the only heartbeat you ever hear, or the only other being you communicate with is your cat. It's VERY depressing. Can I ask ~ are you sure that the friends you do engage with see you as a stationary target? Have you ever just told them how you feel about that? What have you got to lose? Maybe THEY don't realize they're doing that?
About your wonderful wife... of course you rely on her!! "For better or worse, in sickness and in health" are not just words you said at the altar. PLEASE don't underestimate her ~ you would be there for her if the situation was reversed. It's not like you planned this Scott. Feeling guilty doesn't help ~ I know! Wishing you the best!

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ellie80 | @ellie80 | May 24 2:58am

Exactly you get it. I miss having my husband. He passed in 2013. Medical issues are easier together. He was my best friend.
Thanks for responding, it really helps hearing everyone else’s story and take. Thank you.

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itchyd | @itchyd | May 25 4:33pm

I consider myself lucky: I never get lonely with a pet or two around.

I'm 67 and have recently been ghosted by a life-long friend. I'm pleasantly surprised at how quickly Im getting over it.

Meh.

Everybody's different.

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