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The motivation to do anything is gone. If I don't have to go outside I usually don't even bother to get dressed. Showering is now hit and miss. And I don't care. I don't care because I feel no one cares about me. Does it ever get better?

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@thisismarilynb - Hi. I'm sorry that you find yourself in a low spot or low period.

In answer to your question: it DOES get better. It feels like it never will - at least in my experience, when I've been in the middle of this kind of physical and psychological depression. Also I've been told that's a characteristic of the feeling of depression.

I don't have any specific advice on how to get out of it. Sometimes, for me, it has meant just suffering through it. Other times, circumstances have brought me along such that I eventually am lifted out of it. Those circumstances could be a new person I've met, a different schedule to my day, a task that I've dreaded, but that somehow I managed to get done (whether it was on my own or with resources I could rally to my cause). Basically, as I think about it, some kind of change in pattern - for me - can help, although I can also think of times where I resisted any kind of externally-presented change, just wanting to retreat, and be quiet, and withdraw.

I have read and responded at times to your posts over the past year and recall that one of your sons had been of some comfort to you. Is that possible now, or maybe something has changed?

Has a therapist been of any insight or consolation?

Thinking of you, and hope that time will be kind to you as you recover from this ennui. Has anything I've shared rung clear to anything you're experiencing now?

Sending a message of hope along for you in these more trying times.