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New here. Guess i have lung cancer looking at my PET
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Thank you. No, I am all alone. I didn't even have a car. Driving my mom's small 2 door car. Spent 6 weeks trying to haul her stuff here, sell it, whatever. I finally just had to turn the apartment over with everything left in it--clothes, furniture, most all. They just backed a dumptrump up and threw perfectly good stuff into the landfill. That hurt me.
Now my house I was trying to declutter with all my crap is dangerous to walk through and I needed back surgery so now I am stuck with all this chaos that causes chaos in my head. A huge yard I can't take care of now due to the back. No money to hire people. A house mom left me--well, she had no will, so I spent wks studying probate law to try to do it myself. The house is not in my name yet, I don't have the bank accts she left. Taxes are unpaid because I can't get to her accts yet. Being tagged by the city for high grass. Just a grand finale it seems of a miserable life. Have no idea what to do with all this stuff of hers and now dealing with this health of mine. Just unbelievable. I do not have money for any of this. Just deflated and hopless.
Good to know you had a good outcome with the size of yours. I am reading all these ppl who have smaller ones than us with so many problems. It is just overwhelming. I have been in shock now for 2 months I think between mom's death, what she did by leaving no will and now this.
thanks for sharing that with me. Julie
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@julie67 Keep in mind that you are on a lung cancer support group. My youngest brother had multiple nodules monitored for years until the doctors got tired of nothing happening. Believe me, if your doctors become convinced you have lung cancer, you'll know it because things will happen very fast. I call it "The Whirlwind".
But I was diagnosed 6 years ago, and I'm still here, working full-time, walking daily, exercising, gardening, etc.. For the most part, I can't even tell that I have cancer, and most people I meet, including my neighbors, are shocked to learn that I have Stage 4 lung cancer.
I'm originally from the Midwest. I've always said that a characteristic of people from the Midwest is that we don't worry about stuff that hasn't happened.
It does sound like you have a lot on your plate. Depending on where you live, some lawn maintenance companies, churches, and other organizations will come to take care of your lawn. Look around. This is the time to ask for favors from friends, relatives, neighbors, or anyone you know. Our neighbor lives alone and started freaking out that she couldn't keep up with her house. My wife isn't working right now, so she takes our neighbor to her doctor appointments, cleans her house, does her laundry, cooks some meals for her, and sometimes, just hangs out with her. Everyone needs help sometimes, and most people are nice.
If you don't have anyone to help you with the clutter, start with one small corner of one room and straighten that up without moving the stuff somewhere else. There, you've accomplished something. Then, go to the next small section.
I'm very sorry to hear about your mother. That's always hard. This is the time to be gentle with yourself.
What do you call two monkeys sharing an Amazon account?
PRIME-mates.
Why are teddy bears never hungry?
Because they're always stuffed.
Hang in there. You're stronger than you think. Keep letting us know how you're doing. Wishing you all the best.
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What city are you in Julie?