You are asking very good questions. I had my proctectomy at age 59 with a Gleason 3+4=7 (one core) and three 3+3=6 cores. I met with two surgeons, an RO, and a focal expert before deciding on surgery.

I strongly believe the quality and experience of your surgeon is one of the most important factors in maintaining the same quality of life you had before the surgery (specifically, continence and the ability to have an erection). The other important factor is your health going into the surgery (healthy BMI, Kegels before the surgery and an active lifestyle). Dr. Walsh's book on prostate cancer has a section on questions to ask. It would be a good start.

I would ask the following:
1. How many procedures have they done (you want a high number, more than 300 and preferably in the 1000's at a center of excellence IMO)?
2. What is their post-surgery follow up plan and how do they track their patients progress?
3. What is their continence and ED "success rate" (time to regain full function)?
4. Will they utilize the Hood Technique (for continence) and nerve sparing (for ED)?

It can be a scary and confusing time, but a great surgeon will be more than happy to answer any and all questions you have.

Good luck with the appointment!