Like you I was widowed early, age 38, with 3 boys, and discovered I was pregnant a week after he died. Like you I had no choice but to carry on through great grief, but then joy as well with a new baby. At age 60 stage 3a breast cancer again was the challenge to either fold or live in grief and joy. My faith, family, church, job and community have all been the mainstays in my continued love of life now nearly 80 with recurrent cancer. Staying engaged socially, exercising, still working on projects that require use of the brain and some skills learned in my job all contribute to living life as fully as I can!