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Aging Well | Last Active: 8 hours ago | Replies (170)

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Susan Ellen, your suggestion would be very helpful to my husband as well. Like you, his diagnosis is changing from MCI into Dementia. So many questions…so few answers. It is discouraging. Can I ask if you are still driving? My husband’s doctor has said he will have to quit. My husband’s issues are with remembering future
appointments, recalling names, forgetting where he put things (although he usually remembers after thinking on it awhile…I have that problem myself😊) …but as far as driving and getting around our city he is fine…in fact he is a very good driver. If we drive out of familiar areas, I am his map reader…we work as a great team. If he were not able to drive at this point, I believe he would shut down. This disease is hard enough for him to accept, but he is not at the point to give up his keys. He keeps our place (8 acres) beautiful, he drives a tractor and bush hogs others property…there is still so much he is still fully capable of doing. I live with him, we are both retired, I am with him the most, I believe I am a better judge of his abilities and I would be the one to know when the time has come for him to stop. It seems that now that the word Dementia has entered the diagnosis active life’s over. Your suggestion is a good one because there is no where else to go for answers. I have already learned a lot through Connect and am thankful for that. I would love to hear other’s thoughts on the driving issue.

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Google confirms that some states require Docs to report diagnoses of dementia. You might verify what your state’s guidance is.

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Although laws vary from state to state, some states require physicians to notify the DMV of any patient diagnosed with dementia. The person with dementia may then be required to report to the DMV for a behind-the-wheel driver re-examination

Labrown, what I hear is that your husband is a person who needs purpose to feel worthwhile. Since he knows how to work the land, that is a strength that may stay with him for a long time, even if he has to stop driving.
I hope he can continue doing what he loves for the rest of his life.

Have you had this well reasoned discussion with his doctor? Maybe theres some room for discretion.