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Son estranged due to controlling spouse

Just Want to Talk | Last Active: Nov 21, 2024 | Replies (21)

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So here I am in the same boat with all of you. My younger son has basically kicked me out of his family. When my granddaughter was getting married, he told me "Do not make plans to come to the wedding. You are not welcome." My husband died 2-1/2 years ago. We had to postpone the funeral due to Covid. When I was finally ready and able to make arrangements, he and his wife, granddaughter and husband, and grandson all came. However they did not even stay in the same town where I am living. My husband was a Korean War veteran and I made arrangements to have him buried in a national cemetery, which was his wish. When I asked my son if he would be driving me and his father's ashes to the cemetery I was told in no uncertain terms that I would have to get there by myself. There were no displays of warmth at all at the funeral. So after much thought I made changes to our Trust. He is removed as Trustee and as an heir. I do have another son, who, although living far away, has been supportive.

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Very very sorry about the difficulties. Honoring your husband's service.

Unfortunately these kinds of problems in families are common. I have them in my own family.

Shakespeare's King Lear discusses these things.

I have tried family counseling. It has helped some. Did not really change things, but did calm down the intensity of the problems.

And even if you can't bring the family into therapy, getting into therapy itself, always helps some.

take care now