Cal77,,I also have stage 4, in the bones and one lymph node (don't even know what that means). I went 10 rounds with docetaxel. No it's not great but you can do it if that is required. My psa started 962 and is now < .02, testosterone < 3. I had a great deal of pain in my leg which led me to the walk in. If the chemo is needed you will get through it. Also I had did the google on how many years with stage 4, not good but was old info. Read the responses on here of how long many have been going at it, very encouraging news. At times it's so hard not to put your foot in that hole but you need to keep pushing forward. I don't think for me it will ever be as it was but at least they are controlling it and keeping me standing tall. I wish all the best for you, stay strong, you can do this.