@koji480
Daniel, you might consult with both places. It could be your guardian angel intervening and not the nurse. UCLA has an excellent program. The md at Mayo was surprised that someone would be consulting there after talking to Amar Kishan at UCLA.
It is better to consult with a number of oncologists before determining a course of action. I favor radiation over surgery though it will be a personal choice.
Honestly, Mayo is the only facility I keep hearing about rejecting care. I'd be curious as to why. Frankly, I wish they'd refused me. The oncologist was excellent, but I'd been misled about the equipment they had available so it was and expensive time waste, and a not so expensive waste of cash.
MD Anderson has the #1 rating for cancer care, but I've no experience there.
Kishan agrees to phone consults and I think after talking to him you'll end up there. He is a radiation oncologist. I don't know anything about the surgeons and you should talk to a surgeon as well. You might want to watch a compelling video. It doesn't entirely encompass his charm. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=90LoBQtAdYE
I wonder if that nurse would tell you why or if a moderator here might have some insight. It seems to happen across all fields of medicine. Maybe they get too busy.