It's been 2.5 years since my RARP and my experience is much the same as @farmanerd. I need a smallish pad when I run, but otherwise only use a light Tena shield if I'm concerned about a minor leak at an inopportune time and place. Most times it just serves as insurance.

With regard to Kegels, I still do them daily. I use a video from Michelle Kenway, an Australian physical therapist. Am I convinced that they make a difference at this point? No, but I don't think they do any harm. Occasionally I think I overdo it a bit and get some muscle spasms in the pelvic area, and then I hold off doing the Kegels for several days.