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I too could so identify with what you are going through! My husband passed away last July, and I - sometimes had to and sometimes wanted to - get rid of his obsessions. I felt I gave his life away! It’s hard!
One lesson I’m learning, knowing downsizing is necessary: I’ll keep what I really treasure, give away items I know family members appreciate, then donate, and trash. Have to close my eyes and grit my teeth sometimes.
Bet a lot of us going through the same very difficult situation.
Let’s hang in there!
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Consider the culture we are in and of. We are taught throughout our lives that things give meaning to our lives and without things we do not exist, measure up. I have felt much freer to find out who I am without all of these attachments to pieces of paper, photographs, etc. I know who and what I am without. I am a bit of dust soon to return to the great cosmos.
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My previous husband died having Alzheimer's.
The one thing that was pleasurable, especially when times were hard, for him and for me, was looking at a photo album of our volunteer work. He felt so good about it! It made him happy.
I will keep that album forever.
Another thing, every day I look at memory pictures of my last husband and our activities.
Positive memories indeed become a treasure. They keep me smiling.
I think I went off topic. Grieving. Talking helps me, I hope it may help someone else too.