@margotcc, allow me to help (and hopefully not take this conversation off-topic). I bet others would also appreciate this information about how to find your past posts.
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2. Select "Discussions" to see any discussions you've started. Select "Comments" to see comments.

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Now, back to the topic - one that I revisit often with my mom who is also in her 80s, active and involved in her community. We don't live in the same town. The family enjoys visiting her and when we all gather, we're happy she's still in the house. Her town is the mid-point from where we've all spread to in various cities.

She is more than welcome to move in with my husband and I, but we're also aware that means disconnecting her from her community. She's not ready for that and frankly social connection is an important factor in aging well. Luckily, she has neighbors who also keep a watchful eye for emergency and non-emergency needs.

We started a habit a few years ago. We text daily every morning upon waking and every night upon being in bed. At first, we set up this routine for practical, obvious reasons, but it has turned out to bring us joy and connection. I look forward to those good morning and good night texts. And we get to be silly, serious and thoughtful to spice it up.