hi johnnyc. I think I speak for many here in the head and neck cancer group. We all find it not so difficult to deal with the many problems of treatment and recovery of these cancers, often with much success. But when the very difficult cases such as what your wife is going through now, I like others find it hard to come up with words which can help. I am truly sorry for this weakness on my part. I wish I could reach out and carry you through this. I wish I could fix this. I wish I could do more than pray for you.
Someone once told me that knowing that you are not alone can be a comfort. I believe that is true. This battle your wife is in, the outcome is determined by her doctors skill, God's hand, and your love. Me, I am a stranger to you but am drawn in because I want to help. I just don't know how. Know that you are loved by strangers. Know that you are not alone.