You go, girl. I am impressed that you are thinking about what might be possible and planning to achieve it instead of thinking, 'But what if?' If I could isolate what I would rather be the caregiver for, it would be the colostomy and not the dementia. Together, they are a doozie. You are probably much younger than we are and not ready to give up all the lovely adventures the world offers. But take heart: staying home is not a punishment. If you both last long enough, make your home as comfortable and safe as possible. Our latest home improvement to achieve that goal is to install penny tile flooring in a utility bathroom with carpeting (UGG). It is the bathroom my husband insists on using when there are two tiled bathrooms more suitable. I have justified the cost as not going to Mexico this year one of our favorite vacation spots. (That is a joke, and I am so happy we both still enjoy making them.) Enjoy that trip. GloRo