Thanks so much @aczatx47131 - In general, love learning, always curious, and can't seem to ever get too much info!

As for family & caregiving, would welcome any material / links you'd care to share. Esp. when there are lifetime issues with parent/s that were never addressed by the parents, but which we siblings (in our very different ways) have struggled with - and not very successfully managed, to our detriment.

Very sad situation, but true. But when those involved won't deal with their own issues, and refuse help (which they don't view as helpful), it is hopeless...though for some reason, I keep thinking it is possible....probably also to my own detriment, because I'm not letting go.

ANYWAY - I feel for what you've described as your background, and wish you well with that - it is (or can be, for many of us) insidious.

Best.