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When you truly, honestly hate yourself

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@brandysparks

Thank you again @aczatx47131 for directing us to Actionfor Happiness.com.

I've signed up for their Daily (10-day, free) Check in. Love the graphics, the approach, the gentle reminder that it is...Hope to find more there after the 10 days are up!

I recommend checking it out for everyone!

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Replies to "Thank you again @aczatx47131 for directing us to Actionfor Happiness.com. I've signed up for their Daily..."

You are very welcome, brandysparks!

Yesterday I attended their webinar, Life Lessons, with Simon Mundie. The video will be posted on YouTube later today. I will post the link. I highly recommend this webinar.

Simon Mundie uses sports experiences to find a way to happiness. Athletes who achieve their life-long goals are sometimes feeling empty the next day. Often athletes experience flow during their best performances. Flow is the state where we perform and feel at our best. The sense of self drops away, and background awareness is allowed to shine. Flow is always happening. We just don't recognize it. Mundie discussed Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to deal with his insomnia and become aware of flow. He used the Diffusion Technique by Dr. Guy Meadows. Rather than wrestling with thoughts that were keeping him awake, he just said, I am aware of the thought that...This created distance between him and his thoughts, sensations, feelings, etc to get in touch with his aware presence which all human beings have. Awareness is the background to every element of experience. When in pain, a person can welcome the feeling which takes away the resistance to pain, even though the pain cannot be taken away.

This morning I woke up feeling sad but I didn’t know why. So I thought, I am aware that I am feeling sad. The sadness dissipated immediately. My hands were trembling from anxiety, so I thought, I am aware that my hands are trembling. My hands calmed down. I was cooking in the kitchen, standing. My back started hurting, so I thought, I am aware that my back is hurting. The back pain became much less sharp.

Claire

All of the calendars for the year are posted online. I copy the reminders I like onto small cards. When I am feeling lost, I flip through the cars to find one that speaks to how I am feeling. It sounds too simple to work but it does.

I think of the daily calendar reminders as the things a loving parent would say to their child. I had abusive parents. The calendar reminders give me a way forward out of the sadness and anger from my childhood.

Scroll down to find all the calendars. Here is a link to all the calendars:

https://actionforhappiness.org/all-calendars

I have not tried the Daily Check-in. Let me know what you think.

Here is the link for Simon Mundie’s webinar, Happier Life Lessons:

Mundie’s Book
https://www.simonmundie.com/book

Mundie’s Podcast
https://www.simonmundie.com/podcast

Mundie’s Website
https://www.simonmundie.com/