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When you truly, honestly hate yourself

Depression & Anxiety | Last Active: Jul 1 6:58pm | Replies (62)

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@brandysparks

@aczatx47131 Thank you very much. I'm going to look into this, and I appreciate your posting a link to it in your follow-up post.

I've looked into Art Therapy, even tried it with a therapist or two, but it didn't get very far, though, as with everything, it so much depends upon the person, their personality/approach/training/empathy, and so on.

I've purchased many books on Art Therapy (along with many self-help books), but I'm realizing for me it comes down to needing the personal, 1-on-1 engagement with another person/professional to get anywhere in my journey.

[As a note to share on that experience, in an effort to explain or answer one of her prompts in a session, I remember describing the scene that grabs me - that of the calm of a flowing river as it (unknowingly) approaches the precipice of a waterfall (of the magnitude of Niagara falls), with the full force of unavoidable, imminent disaster ahead.]

I do have a lovely LCSW therapist I visit locally, and feel fortunate to find her, but I think it is more of a supportive / friendship (for her mainly - with all good intentions on her part 🤗, truly), and for now I'm ok with that. I know how hard it is to find someone, and even the psychiatrist I had for over 20 years, who was very aware of professional ethics and boundaries, and yet went out of her way to comfort me at times of crisis - didn't seem to get me beyond my lifelong family-rooted struggles. I'll leave it at that for now.

But, again, I do greatly appreciate how you described the experience simply & directly here...
One of the many reasons Mayo Clinic Connect has been an invaluable resource, in innumerable ways, in my life these past few years!

Best wishes.

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Replies to "@aczatx47131 Thank you very much. I'm going to look into this, and I appreciate your posting..."

You are very welcome, brandysparks…Thank you for sharing your growth.

I have had years of therapy and benefitted greatly from a few therapists. But I eventually realized I had to find my own way.

ActionforHappiness.com has videos of all their webinars. I attend the new webinars regularly. The Dali Lama is their mentor/consultant. Here is a link to register for the next one. They are located in London so there is a link on the website to find your time.
https://actionforhappiness.org/life-lessons
On my own, I use the exercises from Linehan’s DBT Skills Handouts and Worksheets.
https://www.amazon.com/Skills-Training-Handouts-Worksheets-Second/dp/1572307811/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1VA1M8HWXTI9J&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.BdfLoieh8hyOSA6UstgXF0xDuTNVZIpL54zkskNE3b9-kNXArDksHwJs-o5siM_U9yIYOyU54AHCtS5aE_3Xk9gOpQSD6lYht-m14TlZZCQh0pDslWjoNvcf_1p9QNIXLGZyU0CzKmc-db_SbxTvhaZVJchz0eh1mPnagaIRoes1ewobGelgom7ftRqXxvzxh3aDWLvqew0PTXj_RIPRmTNGt8zcNuY6kOjngTN8t8U.vhJkmW8HYJ5V-XfsbnFqeSTjZ4w1A_yXqY_GIGrno0M&dib_tag=se&keywords=linehan+dbt+skills+training+manual&qid=1713009679&sprefix=Linehan%2Caps%2C175&sr=8-1
I am new to Mayo Connect so it is good to hear that you find the community helpful.

I started a conversation on SmartPatients.com to gather resources that people use for anxiety. Currently I use Breath Work, mindfulness, wall sitting and brief binaural listening. Here is a link to the conversation. You will have to register with SmartPatients.com to view the conversation, Resources for Anxiety.
https://www.smartpatients.com/conversations/resources-for-anxiety#post-1383416