You might consider getting your care at the VA instead? You’re young enough that a female doctor shouldn’t be a concern, I would hope. There are more females entering medicine than men last count. If you’ve put off the colonoscopy especially since you saw blood in your stool you need to set up st get it done. And btw there is now a simple test your doctors office can give you instead of a colonoscopy. You simply place a sample on the included material and ship it off for analysis. If it shows you need a colonoscopy by the findings that’s your next step. Take care of yourself, you only have one of you. Get a new provider.