Get the Dr Walsh book, read the “highlights” at start of each chapter then read the entire chapter to learn more when it is pertinent.

Get a PSMA scan to see if the PC is confined to the prostate or has spread.

IF, IF you choose RALP, do several weeks of Pelvic Floor PT with a DPT trained in this; and a few more weeks after the surgery. (I, at age 72, opted for RALP, did this PT regimen and was 100% continent. )

Sorry you joined out “club” but there is lots of advice available here.

Best o luck!