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Each Betrayal Begins With Trust
Thank you to all of you who have read my posts and have offered such kind and helpful support.
Just when I thought I could "trust" again, I found out something very disturbing last week about the psychologist who went AWOL on me in December, after working with her for several months. When we began our "therapy" I described my trust issues, which were valid, based upon prior experiences with Tele-Therapy.
Well, the good doctor told me that not only did she have a PhD, but was also a MD, and that she was so excited to help me, as she said she had great knowledge of all things "medical," making it easier for me to explain my symptoms, anxiety about not knowing what was wrong with me and things of that nature. I was paired with one of her colleagues a couple of months ago, and while I was hesitant to "trust" again, I decided that if I wanted to gain anything from this relationship, I would have to "trust" which I have.
My new psychologist informed me last week that the prior psychologist was not a MD, and you can imagine how I am feeling about this new information. Me being me, the insurance investigator, went online, paid money for reports and things of that nature, and guess what, she is not a doctor of medicine. I keep asking myself, "why did I not see the signs?" "How could someone do this to another person: LIE?"
Sutter wants me to file a complaint with the California Board of Psychology, however I have decided not to for several reasons: she already has enough problems, and I certainly do not have the energy/time to complete all the paperwork, be interviewed and things of that nature. On the other hand, I keep thinking, "I don't want this to happen to someone else...."
I feel such a sense of betrayal, but know I have to choose my battles, right? My God! It is amazing what one can find out about another person, a professional at that, by spending a minimal amount of money on one of those "verification" sites. I feel like a fool. Robbed might be a better word. She had surgery in September of last year, and I can remember her telling me, "Now I know, as a doctor, what it feels like to be a patient....." My life is starting to sound like a science fiction novel. My current psychologist cannot apologize enough about the situation, was astonished that I had empathy for this poor woman who lied to me, but what else could I do? I have to let this go, and I am sure in time, I will be able to do so. I've got to say though, that going forward I am really going to have to "verify" everyone, and I hate doing this,as I spent a career doing this, and thought that part of my life was over. What gives? How do people like this get away with such crap?
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LOL. I thought, "yeah, her greatest reward was the ability to lie and have those she was lying to, believe her."
I lived for ten years with a sociopath and "learned," as you know.
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1 ReactionA Lie Told Often Enough Becomes the Truth
Previously I shared an experience about a former psychologist who not only abandoned me, but also lied to me about having a MD, all the time providing me with medical advice she was not licensed to do so.
I mentioned The Ethics Center website, where I am a member and have taken a number of their courses on "ethical decisions." I am not sure if I mentioned that I requested a one hour consultation with and Ethics Counselor to discuss whether or not I should file a complaint with the California Board of Psychology. The call was beneficial, and while I have a good handle on "ethics." I wanted to talk to someone who had more knowledge and / or experience on making ethical decisions. My decision has been finalized and I will be filing a formal complaint this week. The main thing stopping me from doing so was FEAR. I don't want to be looking over my shoulder all the time, and I was fearful that this "doctor" would come after me. After all, we live in America.
The lie she told me goes far beyond a "white" lie or any lie for that matter. She will be investigated by the Psychology Board, the Medical Board and her case will be sent to the DA's office. And even though I worked in the insurance business and handled all kinds of litigated files, a result of catastrophic and life changing accidents, personal injury matters, etc., causing me to hate courtrooms, attorneys and things like that, I have decided to file a lawsuit against this person for "malpractice." I figured out last night that I have lived my whole life giving "passes" to those who have hurt me, and I am unwilling to do so going forward.
Many may not agree with my decision, and that is okay. I will not type what my PCP said last week when I told him "my story."
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4 Reactions@frances007 as my PCP told me a week ago when I went in with a couple of complaints, “you are right to listen to and take charge of what your body tells you” - or something to that effect.
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3 ReactionsGo get 'em.
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