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Loss & Grief | Last Active: Apr 7 12:18pm | Replies (932)
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@opheli

Hello @ddn, Your message touched my heart. My son passed away in 2022. Then I lost my husband, his father, more recently. My husband was very ill, but I also believe his heart was broken from the loss of our son. These are some of the things that help me: I have a very strong faith, and a clergy person I can speak with. Sometimes that may sound cliche….but there is definitely a power greater than myself carrying me through this. I do yoga and try to walk or do some other physical exercise every day. I have some friends and family who lift me up….and I don’t hesitate to reach out to them when I need to talk. I try to keep busy….I am retired, but can fill in at my old job, and do so when asked. Sometimes I have to force myself to do the above activities, but I know they are necessary. And some days, many days, it still seems surreal that my sweet son is gone. He was such a shining light in my life….
I have reached out to Compassionate Friends, and they send a very helpful newsletter that you can read online. There are also some online grief groups that you can join….just to honor your loved one and spend some time with others who have experienced the same loss.
It also helps to take life One Day at a Time…..don’t think too far into the future. But DO plan some simple things to look forward to…a lunch date with a good friend…a get together with a family member.
Sending you a hug….

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ddn | @ddn | Apr 7 9:10am

Thank you darling for reaching out to me. I do have faith and I try to keep going, but it is so hard. I lost my best friend and "sister" in May 2015 after a shocking diagnosis in 4 months. Six months later my mom passed away. She had dementia. Then, 9 months later, the final blow when I lost my son.
My heart breaks for your losses. First your precious son, then your husband. I am so very, very sorry and will hold you close in prayer my darling.
God bless you for your compassion 🙏 ❤

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Teresa, Volunteer Mentor | @hopeful33250 | Apr 7 12:18pm

Hello @opheli,

I appreciate you sharing your multiple loss experiences. To have lost both a son and a spouse is very difficult. I appreciate all of the ways you have adjusted to these losses. I understand what you mean when you say, "Sometimes I have to force myself to do the above activities, but I know they are necessary." That is the difficult part, keeping yourself active, especially when you don't feel like it.

I am glad to hear that Compassionate Friends has been helpful to you and I appreciate your kind words to @ddn. It really does take people of similar experiences to share how they continue to live with grief.

I hope that you and @ddn continue to post about your loved ones. It will help you and provide valuable insight and inspiration to the rest of the community.

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