Yes, in fact, she called me this morning and told me they went to the assisted living place yesterday and signed the paperwork. My 73 year old hero will move in on 4.17.
She and I had plans for me to visit her home later this month so I could sell my art at a craft fair being held in their "over 55" community, where they bought a 3000 sq ft house 3.5 years ago. If not for my brother in law's back, which requires surgery, he would still be able to stay. Meaning, but for the dementia, he could have surgery to repair is back that is injured from years of working as a produce manager at Safeway. Now, there is someone who could pick out the best fruit or vegetable you could ever ask for. When she called me today, she said, "I am going to need your help." She has never asked for help of me before, ever. I, being ten years younger, have always asked her for help, so now it is my turn to be her "big sister," the one she does not have. I have assured her that I will do everything and anything she asks of me, regardless of my own health issues. That's what we do for those we love, right? Oh, I have that other "non sister" who disowned me years ago, but guess what. My big sister asked for MY help, and that makes me feel just terrific. I have given her my word that we do not have to do the Swedish Death Cleaning that I just did, donating half of my apartment to the Cancer Society, but she does want me to help her take some things to the Cancer Society, where I actually volunteered for 8 years. All good stuff. I am working on making her a "playlist" on YouTube tonight so that we can both listen to "happy-sad" music together. LOL. Given we are both hearing impaired, I can play it as loud as I want. I just added Miracle of Love by the Eurythmics. Good song. Boy, what a week. Thank you very much for your response. I appreciate you/